Why does it always seem pathetic when a girl is in love with a boy who doesn’t love her back, and romantic and heartbreaking when a boy loves a girl who doesn’t love him
you know exactly why
*pulls cord, revealing poorly made banner and confetti*
bisexual? looking for positive, accurate representation in media? boy have i got some upsetting news for you
Actual bisexuals: “I’m bisexual.”
Bisexuality in the media = “I don’t like labels.”
Excellent point! Never noticed that before but you are spot on.
Shoutout to all disabled people for whom it is difficult, painful, or even impossible to maintain personal hygiene. Shoutout to everyone who struggles with taking showers, who forgets to brush their hair, who don’t have enough spoons to do laundry as often as they want to. Shoutout to disabled people who struggle with personal hygiene while also belonging to groups for which “presentability” is a large part of avoiding persecution.
You are good, and you are wonderful, and you are dignified. The people who would make fun of you could never be as strong as you are.
"the free market regulates itself!"
that must be why all these small startup businesses with ethical practices, that pay their employees a living wage and use environmentally friendly products are doing so well and raking in billions while corrupt companies like wal-mart, coca-cola, general electric, and mcdonald’s languish in bankruptcy OH WAIT
"queer" is a slur and you shouldn’t use it to describe a whole group even if you’re reclaiming it for yourself
Real environmentalists don’t eat meat
this needs tO BE SHOUTED FROM ROOF TOPS
Trigger warnings: discussion of abusive parent, mental illness, violence, and suicidal ideation. Please proceed with caution if you are easily triggered by any of the above.
I’m not used to asking for anyone’s help, and I’m afraid I may not be much good at it, so I apologize in advance if this comes out a little awkward.
Our names are Nathan and Lucy. Nathan is a mixed-race trans man of color, and I’m a white trans woman. We’re both pretty far from neurotypical. He lives with BPD (among other things), and I fall somewhere on the bipolar spectrum. We both have pretty savage cases of gender dysphoria, and we need to transition, but we can’t because of our living arrangements. We’ve lived together for almost nine years, now, and I don’t know how much longer we can stand this, to be honest… and that’s why we’re finally breaking down and asking for people’s help.
We live with Nathan’s father, although not in the same household. He is an extremely wealthy, white landowner and businessman with several plots of commercial real estate in town, a profitable small business, a several-hundred-acre country estate, numerous classic cars, boats, tractors, guns, etc. He spends thousands of dollars on a whim to buy old, broken vehicles that he never gets around to fixing.
He’s also extremely racist, homophobic, transphobic, misogynistic, hates the poor, does not believe in mental illness, and is an aggressively militant right-wing conservative Southern Baptist. In the past, he has told Nathan gay people “shouldn’t have rights at all,” forced him to go to church to attempt to “fix” depression and suicidal ideation, and has made allusions to physically assaulting people of color many times. He has always denied Nathan monetary help… refusing, even, to pay Nathan’s (single, WoC) mother more than 25 dollars a week in child support, complaining constantly about being poor despite his obvious wealth. He has, many times in the past, pointed loaded guns at people who anger him.
In addition to being miserly and a bigot, he is verbally and emotionally manipulative/abusive toward Nathan. We have lived in a tiny FEMA trailer (pictured) on this man’s land for almost 4 years, now, and pay him rent. While we’re here, we can never transition because we would, at best, be thrown out and rendered homeless as soon as he figured out what was going on… given his past behavior, however, we fear he may physically harm one or both of us if we came out in any capacity.
I’m lucky enough to have a half-decent job, and I think we could - kind of - manage the cost of moving and transitioning on our own… or at least, we could have. We had been saving to try to move out of here for months and months, and eventually that effort fell apart because the Federal Government garnished my paychecks for my student loans. I don’t owe a lot, relatively speaking. I went to college for one year and dropped out, and owe a little less than $4000 on it, still. My parents had promised to pick up that cost before I went, and then backed out of that commitment after the fact, so now I’m stuck with the bill.
The government garnishes my wages to the tune of about 12.5% of my gross income, so I basically have NO disposable income and no way to save money. We can barely afford to eat, now! We may be able to have the garnishment removed, but we have no way of knowing how long that will take, and having to pay that in addition to bills has put us even further in the red than when we started.
We’re asking for money to help us move somewhere away from Nathan’s father and/or repay the student loan keeping us from doing so ourselves. This fund is NOT asking for help with the actual costs of transitioning - just the costs of physically moving away from an abusive and dangerous man so that we can live our own lives. In order to be able to pay rent ANYwhere, I have to pay off my student loan or at least get the garnishment removed. So we’re basically asking for enough to get rid of that so that I can pay rent somewhere, plus enough to find a place somewhere else where we can live without Mr. Deep South harassing Nathan all the time.
Thank you, everyone, for any help you provide, or for spreading the word if you can’t donate. We both appreciate it very much!
Still trying to find an alternate site to host… until then, please signal boost.
aww! this sounds like a really difficult state to be in! so much tumult! i hope things get better for you all soon =(
Thank you! I think therapy tomorrow will help. It’s the first time in three weeks (because we were away and then ill). But our therapist is great so it usually does help.
Leaking nudes is a form of sexual assault
Accessing and spreading a woman’s private images without her consent is a form of sexual assault
your experiences are your experiences, and everyone reacts to their experiences differently. your experiences and reactions to those experiences are valid and you are all valid! <3
Thank you so much! Need to hear validation right now. We still feel so weird and I don’t know who I am and who the others are and no one knows who they are and everything is fleeting and people come and go and it’s … not good. :/
We feel so small and vulnerable and hurt…
whenever “strong female characters” insult men by calling them girls my eyes roll so far back in my head i can see my brain cells die
Social justice is about destroying systematic marginalisation and privilege. Wishing to live in a more just, more equal world is simply not the same thing as wishing to live in a “nicer” world. I am not suggesting niceness is bad or that we should not behave in a nice way towards others if we want to! I also do not equate niceness with cooperation or collaboration with others. Here’s all I am saying: the conflation of ethical or just conduct (goodness), and polite conduct (niceness) is a big problem.
Plenty of oppressive bullshit goes down under the guise of nice. Every day, nice, caring, friendly people try to take our bodily autonomy away from us (women, queers, trans people, nonbinaries, fat people, POC…you name it, they just don’t think we know what’s good for us!). These people would hold a door for us if they saw us coming. Our enemies are not only the people holding “Fags Die God Laughs” signs, they are the nice people who just feel like marriage should be between a man and a woman, no offense, it’s just how they feel! We once got a very nice comment on this site that we decided we could not publish because its content was “But how can I respect women when they dress like – sorry to say it, pardon my language – sluts?”. This is vile, disgusting misogyny and no amount of sugar coating and politeness can make it okay. Similarly, most of the people who run ex-gay therapy clinics are actually very nice and polite! They just want to save you! Nicely! Clearly, niceness means FUCK ALL.
The Revolution Will Not Be Polite: The Issue of Nice versus Good - http://www.socialjusticeleague.net/2012/04/the-revolution-will-not-be-polite-the-issue-of-nice-versus-good/ (via varldslighet)
I feel like this concept is pretty vital to Good Reason News as well.
Courtesy is something that is earned, and you will not earn it by oppressing someone. And fyi, treating someone as a person, not using sexist/racist/homophobic/transphobic/ableist slurs, and/or using the correct gender identiy for others is a requirement, not a courtesy.
Like I said “politeness” and tone policing is simply insisting being violent, insulting and hateful in a polite way is somehow acceptable.
I don’t know what’s wrong with us recently. We feel bad, no one knows who they are, there’s a lot of switching and internal conversations that get cut short and people you were just talking to, just trying to get to know, disappearing to who knows where, and everything is confusing and I’m making it sound far worse than it is it’s just I feel like crying but I have no idea what about or WHO even feels like crying and it just sucks and I’m just trying to distract ourselves.
I’m going to just say it again, if you “reclaim” a slur, that means you can use it on you. Don’t use it on other members of your community unless you know for a fact that those individuals are ok with it, because it is still a slur no matter what and there are still people who will feel dehumanized by it.